My friends don’t believe me when I say, “I have single friends, they are date-able and steady guy friends....And if they wanted me? Well, I’m just not looking for a serious relationship right now...but I do love looking and hanging out with cute men!”
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As I walked into the supermarket my eyes met the cutest blue eyed, blond guy I have ever seen. His Daniel Craig “good looks” and Heath Ledger “smooth voice” made me think, “A guy like this has to be taken.”
As I walked into the supermarket my eyes met the cutest blue eyed, blond guy I have ever seen. His Daniel Craig “good looks” and Heath Ledger “smooth voice” made me think, “A guy like this has to be taken.”
Sure enough he IS “taken.”
Most women would either be disappointed or instantly divulge a plan to tear his romance apart.
I, however, was relieved.
A “taken” guy that is happy with his current girlfriend is a beautiful sight. It is one of the few situations that makes a “platonic friendship” possible. Most single male/female friendships are rooted in so much “Ego” that one person is bound to get over-emotional about some aspect of the “friendship.”
For example, the guy I once kissed swore it was over between he and his past ex-girlfriend (of 7 years), but he was currently living with she and her mother. He might not love her at the moment, but his track record shows a “constant”...that “constant” was returning to her doorstep when life got hard.
I was annoyed with his lack of ambition in regards to his career goals AND the lack of respect that their relationship presented for one another....BUT then again, there was something nice about seeing how much they both needed each other and how their relationship was something “lasting” (even though it was dysfunctional).
There is nothing shameful about being with a woman and knowing you want to be with her for a very long time... And there is nothing wrong with falling in and out of love or changing your mind. My philosophy teacher in high school once said, “Humans are not inherently monogamous. We will fall in and out of love over the course of our lives, with many different people.” While I believe that to an extent, I also believe that a couple can do the same within a relationship.
What is SO shameful about being the guy that stays with the girl? Most of the time women would kill to be the object of desire with a steady, good looking guy that doesn’t step out on her or break up after a few months due to boredom.
It takes a certain level of character, and masculinity to maintain a steady girlfriend, especially while living in Los Angeles, when so many externally “beautiful” aggressive women throw themselves at men.
So if he is taken, go hang out with him (AND his girlfriend), because one good couple might have several NICE and RESPECTFUL single friends!
“A guy that can look at other women like a work of art but come home to their one and only masterpiece is a keeper.”
*Photo of man is NOT linked to the scenario described in blog post... Photos are an inspiration.
