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"I am nice....I just couldn't figure out a nice way to tell you I am not interested in you..."
I have come to the conclusion that men who “Wear 'nice' on their sleeve” or say they are “nice” are usually inconsiderate jerks. I am friends with guys that start out “nice;” but they exhibit, “not so nice” qualities, even though they think they are "great, desirable, studs" (that every girl should want).
What do I mean? Once a guy friend said, “Why don’t girls like a nice guy like me? Why do they like guys like HIM?” I replied, “Well, he makes them feel important. He doesn’t show up with flowers to a first date and he doesn’t ask his friends if those women are marriage material.”
I wanted to say, “You dress like your grandpa and claiming you are so much better than his 'type' is highly arrogant. Maybe you are single, because you are really NOT that nice...”
I had another friend tell me, “This girl I knew used to have a crush on me, but I didn’t want her. So, she moved on with this other guy...Then I got s%!t faced last night and said, ‘IF you ever want to leave your boyfriend and be torn apart by me, call me’. She turned beet red because she still liked me, but that was a really chauvinistic thing to say...I was drunk...” I don’t know why any “man” with any sort of “character” would tell me that story...but it didn’t make him look “hot” in my eyes. It is easy for me to be friends with guys that think they are, “Great, nice, attractive, rich and talk about how many women they get etc.” because it is a major “turn off” to me, but I learn a lot about men (which makes life fun).
So do nice guys really finish last?
A truly nice man wont have time to sit around and assure women he is, "nice" or there is something wrong with THE WOMAN for not seeing how NICE he really is....
Some "not so nice/insensitive men" might grow into "nice-er" men....but it is a "coin toss."
