The Beginning. The situation behind the blog....(there are countless reasons)
Why not give people young and old something to “think” and “talk” about that, “diversifies” their ability to fare in the world?
Three weeks after graduating from UCLA....I ventured back to L.A. at the beginning of July.
While in L.A. I hung out with my closest friends and amazing cousin, doing yoga daily, eating vegan food and enjoying life without having to worry about homework!
One of my evenings, was unique and unexpected. I met up with one of my male friends from college and ended up having dinner with him and his two friends.
While walking into the restaurant, I noticed a confused look on the host’s face. At first I thought it was because my friend is ridiculously good looking and usually warrants that kind of reaction from females (who don’t know any better...), but then I noticed her looking from me to him multiple times. I in return smiled at her, while stepping closer to him. Her facial expression looked less confused, but her eyes still wide with something in between shock and confusion.
We were seated at our table and ate dinner, while I got to thinking....First I thought, “Maybe he made eyes at her and wanted to get her number and I just messed up his “Mojo?”
On the way out of the restaurant, our two friends proceeded us. I was watching everyone look at them, as well as shamelessly stare at me! Men and women alike were giving all three of us the “once over.” However, a female “once over” is not hidden like a man. A female “once over” is evaluating. So after making eye contact with one man and seeing his eyes look past me to my friend and back, I became a little bit puzzled. When I faced another female, with the same expression, I stopped to look back at my friend wondering what was wrong; maybe he lost something....but there he was looking “All American, good as ever.”
THEN it dawned on me....all the stares....
Both males are WHITE and both females are BLACK!
No one knew that all four of us were JUST friends and white guy /black girl pairings are not seen as often as black guy/white girl parings.
On top of that, all four of us were attractive and that doesn’t support the common interracial stereotype: “Dorky, pushover, short white guy with a loud, bossy black woman that might be larger than he is.” ***Not what I believe, but what I have heard people say.***
On an unconscious level, we just gave everyone in that restaurant their “Daily Dose of Diversity.”
I would love to do a social experiment like this with the above white friend and my Filipino friend, just to see if there is a difference in reception! It would take some planning, but could be very interesting.
If you do not believe my claims, please reference the blog Racialicious it explains a similar scenario with a dating emphasis, read the comments as well....
