All talk and never learned to walk.
“He lives on the couch of his ex-girlfriend”
“It’s like my mom married another child. He works some, but she does everything else.”
“Facebook showed him running around without anything, but ONE sock on...”
“28 and never done anything except for hourly work by day, and his GF/exercising after?”
I am glad to see that the author of Until I Get Married is working on his Manchild “issues.”
Remember, unlike Until I Get Married I reflect and share stories about all of my encounters light heartedly (as a form of growth and understanding) so others can relate, grow and laugh too!
The Manchild:
A Manchild does not mature past age 17-25, but he will swear he is a “man” based on things like a small job, physical appearance and ability to tie his shoes. He will also criticize his past relationships and swear his Ex’s are crazy (like the guy I met in 2009 and kissed in 2011). What takes a man three days to do anything takes a Manchild three months. A Manchild must feel good all the time or he can’t function!
The female equivalent to a Manchild is a woman that puts herself before her children or her appearance before all else while feeding off the attention of others. These women tend to love having fun, causing drama and have fake names or alias as an attempt at originality.
I have males as friends and I have seen their “transformation” from “Manchild to Man.” It is a beautiful thing seeing a Manchild realize he must face his problems directly in order to grow up.
Months ago I asked my sexy friend (A “Manchild-no-more”), “How long can a guy get by on his looks, empty words and charm before he has to step up/get a job? And do nice guys really finish last?” My friend laughed and said, after college he graduated from his egotistical days and 25 years old is the “cutoff” (because after that nice men with nicer cars start to finish first...).
I have no strife with a Manchild. He is fun, however, women must understand that they might gain a child instead of a husband or a boyfriend and like a child he does not have a concept of time, responsibility or accountability. A Manchild acts on emotion, lust, love, hunger or starvation and only after he is physically satisfied will he question the woman at hand. A Manchild will never admit to the leaching, life sucking properties he exhibits.
One Manchild friend of mine insists he will open a business and do all the legal, accounting and creation of the product. What he doesn’t say: He is a 25 year old college drop out, trade school attempting, neighborhood security guard that moved back home after living off of his Ex. He claimed they broke up because he slept with another woman, and she got mad but SHE just didn’t understand they were on a “break.” He failed to mention that SHE was working a full time job and slated to start her masters while he worked (if at all), talked about big ideas and went to the beach....
In no way is a Manchild “dumb.” He gets exactly what he wants daily (food, water, exercise, money etc.) while having a hard time thinking about tomorrow. He is great at manipulation and convincing women he is doing all he can to survive, while following his BIG dreams/goals. He never reaches his goals, because of “someone/something” else causing his “failure.” He is a good talker; he will never own up to failure being related to his lack of effort. He will blame someone else and continue to say,
“Three more months before I...‘GROW THE HECK UP!’”
Back Story: Why am I writing about Men? I love men, I love relationships and I love engaging with diverse people. What I don’t love is a unmotivated, dead end job-ed “Man” criticizing me and other women because of our age, opinions or lack of bedroom “experience”
Accountability is hard for a Manchild.. They can’t grow up...They won’t.
Dementor is to Harry Potter as Manchild is to Clueless.
Dementor: Soulless creatures, considered among the foulest beings on Earth... soul-sucking fiends who, cause people to lose their minds.
