“Why don’t YOU grow some balls?” my man friend exclaimed, when I complained how a guy that I “liked” didn’t make a “move.” He continued, “Get what you want…it’s a new world.”
On a similar subject (years before) my female friend told me about a different guy I liked saying, “Why don’t you kick him in the balls, just to see if they are there...because he sure doesn’t seem to have any around you!”
What did I make of both advisement's?
I concluded I don’t have balls and I don’t want to kick anyone’s either. I would love to make a “move,” but when a guy is standing with his arms crossed in front of you and then farting on the walk home; not taking any consideration for you getting faint and laughing while moving out of the way when you actually START to faint. I don’t know if me growing balls to make a move on him is necessary…Since I think I could quite possibly write a sequel to “He’s Just not that into you….” My book would be “He’s into you!! He’s into you!! He’s just an Idiot…”
My female friend has a boyfriend who made the first move, so I WILL (for a little while longer) hold out hope that SOME men are not blessed with such good looks that women flock to them like flies on a horse’s eye… OOORRR if they happen to look good, maybe they also have a good brain and can at least PRETEND not to want sex only.
As of late, I convinced myself that most men I know are, “Just not that into my words, interests and personality, even if they ARE into my hair, cooking and butt.” Don’t get me wrong, I have encountered men not into sex ONLY. I have met Christian chaste men; Hindu men that will arrange a marriage, if they fail at finding a women and random men working at Joann’s that have proposed to me while cutting my fabric crookedly....BUT WHY so extreme? When will a guy just be able to have lunch, coffee and a conversation?
I always say, “The day a guy wants to grab a cup of coffee and not my hair or an instant romp in the hay is the day I’ll consider grabbing more than just a cup of coffee with him and besides the guys I want don’t want me or end up crazy.”
