Can you guess this acronym?
No, it’s not a STD…
It is “Ugly Duckling Syndrome”
Apparently, it’s where a girl doesn’t “blossom” or “get hot,” until after high school or college. In turn, she develops a kind heart, a brain and some other amiable attributes that help her maneuver beyond being a vixen or depending on her looks…
“Urban Dictionary,” however, makes it sound negative, saying either the girl has a low self esteem or she turns into an arrogant slut (once she becomes “hot”)…Other websites describe it in a more diplomatic format.
I think that’s what I experienced!
In no way is this “vanity” speaking, but I went from the chick that no one ever noticed or wanted…I would walk into a room and no one would smile, and eyes would avert. This is a classic symptom of being an average, obese individual in a sexy, slim society.
I remember wishing, someone could see my kindness and the “inner beauty” that the movie Shallow Hal depicted so comically (yet romantic)…Well, no one ever saw that inner beauty until now, 100lbs. lighter/later… People reacted to my “change.”
My Junior Year of college, things started to change; my weight loss finally reached the level where men started looking! I hadn’t lost 100lbs. just yet, but I highlighted my hair and a few men spoke to me…
Even NOW in 2011, however, STILL very few speak. This is okay, because the men that DO approach me are usually players (but I am flattered nonetheless). Finally, getting compliments from men and not sitting while my thinner friends receive the attention is something many girls are NOT aware of. Thin girls will deny the lack of attention as based on, “personality” not “physical!”
I worried, however, that being “undesirable” when I was younger, would make me desperate for male attention once I got older; and I would turn into a slut blinded by my ego and desire for male validation.
My fears were put to the test, when I met the SEXIEST man alive back in December of 2009. I didn’t “lose” anything, except my patience and respect for him.
I did, however, reevaluate my ethics and morals, when I thought about this SEXY guy. I would think, “I just might be able to sleep with this guy and walk away without any attachment….” Physically, he was SO my type and I had never met a man like this before… In fact I never knew I had a “type,” until I saw him…but his personality was so chauvinistic and “All the girls want me, so come and get me Shamime” that I managed to convince myself that he was ONLY sexy. Eventually, he made it clear he only wanted SEX; he wanted shameless, no strings attached sex and I realized I wanted a boy friend that I could let my guard down with and not just some romp in the hay.
“UDS” made this possible; I managed to compartmentalize good looks and personality. Most women would jump this guy, because he’s a perfect combination of Wentworth Miller and Michael Ealy. EVEN when I am extremely tired and lonely, I wonder if I missed out on one amazing night of sex and then being blown off never speaking to him again…. Nope, I don’t think I missed out.
