“Oh God Shamime, how can you like him? He’s so NOT hot” was what my friend said to me when I mentioned our mutual friend was attractive. I felt slightly ashamed and regretful I voiced my crush, but then... I didn’t care!!
So, I got the idea to try this little social experiment on another group of my UCLA friends who do not know the guy. I mentioned I like a guy and showed them his facebook; none of my friends were impressed at all, only one mentioned his character. The others were tearing his appearance apart and questioned me INSTEAD about an attractive friend I have who has a famous sister.
Needless to say, this was the last time I spoke to those friends for about six months. I deleted my facebook and just wanted nothing to do with the World of Image and Looks. I was fed up with their obsession with fame and men. While they probably just thought I became a social recluse for a while, it was really because I wasn’t sure WHY they were my friends? Was it because I had attractive friends or was it because of me?
I hate standards of beauty. Chasing the ideals that the media projects as “fame” “Success” and “Beauty” It is not worth it at the expense of others feelings.
